MARRIAGE AND LOVE - PART 1

Marriage is a tradition followed to announce openly to the society that the couple is going to live together. All the people who attend the marriage bless the couple to live together happily as long as they live. But are all the couples who marry in this way, really happy?

Pre-Independence and Upto 1970's:

Very few women had jobs and the majority took care of the households, cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. In such a scenario, one does not get to know about the girl one is about to get married to. Women had many restrictions. They never spoke to strangers, especially men. One never gets to know about the other until they get married. Selection of the bride/bride groom used to be through horoscopes. How does one know that a particular girl would match to a particular boy without even knowing them or even looking at them? Where was the chance to know about them? It was a dreadful thought to have contacts with the opposite sex before the marriage. There was no way to know about the attitude of the person. Hence people believed and trusted the horoscopes.

The influence of the planetary motion on the human mind is still a mystery to a lot of people. How does the plantes determine the human psychology? The 9 planets and the 12 zodiacs form a total of 108 elements that are divided into 27 stars with 4 elements each. Why all this crap at all for marriages? Every planet is associated with certain amount of gravitational pull associated with it. The time and place of birth of any person determines the latitude and the longitude of that place and hence the 'real' time in the stellar. Astronomy and Astrology go on par with each other. The positions of the planets and stars during the time of birth of a person determine his attitude and fate. Do you believe this? Anyways, this was the belief in those days.

So for a perfect, the so called 'ideal' match, people used to travel from one place to the other in search of bride. Caste and sect were also key criteria for the search. Caste and sect determine the practices that one follows in ones house. The rituals, the beliefs, the customs and the traditions are different for various sects, hence the sect becomes a bar for the search. Finally after executing the heuristic algorithm with these criteria, they find a match, which actually they assume matched, and let the marriage happen. Then starts the time for the couple to know about each other. What if they dont like them? Stupid question. After having seen the horoscopes, they ought to like each other. But even then, what if they dont like? Damn it!! Once committed, there is no roll back.

Since a majority of the families were joint, after the marriage, the girl had to work for the entire family. The expectations for her are set. What to talk, what not to talk, how to behave are taught. In other words, they are dictated. Who likes to be dictated? Does not one has the freedom to think in ones own way? But unfortunately, this was the scenario of our ancestors.

1970's till 2000:

Times have changed. Technology has improved. Families became nuclear. Hence more houses. Cost of living was increased. Women have started becoming educated. More schools and colleges. More jobs. Women started working. They started supporting their families financially as well. Since women just began to interact with men, and since one had their own restrictions and limitations, marriages in this period also followed the age old tradition of looking at the horoscopes. But this time the search operation was perfomed within the known families, friends and relatives of the same caste. Sect was a bar still, but sub-sect no more a bar. The percentage of working women and men was in the ratio 1:9. Women could be said as liberated, since they started expressing their views, started exploring things on their own and started living on their own, but on a lower scale.

21st Century:

Youth in this century are totally different. They have got the technology available at their convenience. Computers, Internet, Cell phones, bikes, what not? Born to the people of earlier generation as described above, children in this generation, especially girls were raised as equally as a boy was. There is no difference in any aspect. They compete in every field. Girls have finally obtained their freedom. They behave the way they want, they dress up the way they want, they live the way they want. Today every girl has a job. The ratio of working men and women is 1:1. House hold work is also shared by both. Girls and boys interact a lot. They have the technology with them to share things privately. There are absolutely no restrictions.

Marriages in this scenario are quite different. Since boys and girls grow together and get to know one another very well right from the school days till their jobs, there are more chances of selecting their spouse by themselves. Parents in this century have seen their ancestors and are also seeing the youth of today. They are unable to decide which life is better. They just cant ignore the traditions and customs that have been followed since ages. At the same time they cant dictate terms to the younger generation. There still are arranged marriages, though the percentage of love marriages (a term given to the type of marriage when the couple chooses their spouse on their own) is increasing.

Marriage, performed in any generation, any type, is ultimately meant for the couple to be happy. They are expected to love each other and raise their children in a harmonious environment. But we find flaws and failures in both the arranged and love marriages. Undoubtedly, the divorce rates are increasing. So the main purpose of the marriage element is lost. Why? Are there any basic qualities which the couples are missing to possess? What do they need to do to restore their happy married life?

Read on...

GOD - WHO IS IT? PART - 2

Weber's theory of magnetism considers the molecular alignment of the material. This theory assumes that all magnetic substances are composed of tiny molecular magnets. Any normal bar of iron would be non-polar. All the molecules would be randomly placed. There is very less energy associated with the bar. Now try to polarize the magnet by applying a magnet in a particular direction. What happens? After some time, all the molecules align to a particular
direction and hence the normal iron bar becomes a bar magnet. This bar magnet will now have more energy. It would now behave differently. But why all this crap now?

Our human body is also composed of many materials. Any normal human being is non-polar. Once he/she gets polarized, they gain more energy and reach higher energy levels. And hence they become powerful. They become God. Height of stupidity, rite?? What happens when one has the highest enery level? The end of the spectrum; Gamma rays? Beyond that? May be equal to the heat energy at the core of the Sun. So one reaches that state. Many reactions keep taking place there. At such high temparatures, the inert gases begin to liquify. Beyond that? Our technology has taken us only till moon and mars. Sun and beyond, yet to be discovered. Salvation, as popoularly said to be the ideal state of any being, where there is no life after reaching that state, is thus the highest level of energy that can be imagined. But why do we need energy?

We need energy to work. Newton's laws were formulated to establish the relation between work and energy. How much energy one needs to work? We get energy from the food, water, air and sun light, just as any other animal or plant gets. Then all of us(living creatures) are in the same energy level, rite!! Then why higher energy levels? There is immense potential in each living creature, which we unfortunately do not realise. Once we get high energy, we will have power to do what ever we want. Energy is power (both have the same units..joule, watt, newton, etc.) If one feels that God can do miracles using his power, then even we can. When we reach God or become God, or in my words, reach the supreme energy level, we will have unlimited power. Whatever you have read that God could do, can be done by us.

The so called re-incarnation of God, as what people believe was not first in the human form. There were many other forms before this. First was an aquarian (totally inside the water - fish), then as an amphibian (water and land - turtle), then an animal (pig), animal - human (lions face - human body), a dwarf human, and finally as a human being. And after that It always took the human form. In every form, it was proved that He could do anything and everything. Hence all creatures are capable of becoming the God.

Now that we have seen why to increase the energy, lets see how to increase the energy levels? (This is what people call realisation of the God).As said previously, one needs to be polarised to have higher energies. How to get polarised? This is not with any bar (like a soap) to apply on our body. This is through certain practices. Here comes the term 'Discipline'.
Discipline may denote any training intended to produce a specific character or pattern of behaviour, especially training that produces moral, physical, or mental development in a particular direction. A set of practices, when practised regularly, makes you polarise. What sort of practices one needs to practice?

Instead of writing an essay on what are to be practised as for a 16 marks question, I shall write in brief 5-steps.

1. Irrespective of any religion, there are certain moral values that are to be maintained to have a fair-harmonious-non-judicial environment in the world. Truth, non-violence, treating others equally as one self, etc. are some of them. This is the first step.

2. There are certain principles with which one should develop ones attitude, which paves the way to reach higher energies. Cleanliness, modesty, the feeling of being content with what we have are some of them.

3. A healthy mind in a healthy body. Until the body is fit and healthy, our mind does not function the way it is supposed to. One needs to be physically healthy and strong.

4. Breathing is life. It is one of our most vital functions. Our life span is inversely proportional to the number of breaths we take per minute. Sounds funny?? A dog takes 80-100 breaths a minute. It lives for a max. of 15-20 years. A tortoise on the other hand, breathes once in 30 minutes or so and hence lives for more than 200 years. Proper breathing is to bring more oxygen to the blood and to the brain, and to control the vital life energy. This comes through practice.

5. Meditation. To meditate is to make the mind observe null. I have very easily written this statement, but in practice it needs lot of practise to achieve that state of calmness. Our energy levels are spread across the spinal cord right from the spine to the head. The least energy level is at the spine and the highest is at the centre of the head. To make the energy levels rise in us, we need to meditate constantly. When one has the energy level rose to the level of his head, he/she is the supremo. They are said to have realised the God. Many saints have realised this through years of practice. One thus needs to be disciplined to reach that state.

Then why do we worship somebody? Faith and belief. If we have some ailment to be cured, we go to a doctor and believe in what ever medicine he prescribes. With the only faith that his medicine would work and ofcourse the effect of the medicine, our ailment gets cured. Trust, Hope, Faith and Belief are thus the essential elements any normal human being has. We get what we deserve and not what we desire. Do you ask for grades in the school? The lecturers evaluate your performace based on your marks, assignments, behaviour and various other parameters. If you feel that you have not done well in the exam, do you really want higher grades? Do well in the exam. you need not ask for anything. Similarly, everyone of us is evaluated by certain parameters by the nature (ones own conscience apart). If the deeds we perfom are good, the fruits of it, we enjoy. If not, we suffer.

At the grass root level, I would like to conclude saying that God is something that every individual perceives. One can choose to take ones own path to realise the truth. But do not blindly follow somebody. Have faith in what you believe.

You are THE ONE.

GOD - WHO IS IT? PART 1

Disclaimer: This is a controversial topic.

Subjective to my thoughts, please do not treat this as something against any race/creed/religion. This is purely irreligious. Any idea which contradicts yours, is purely fictious.

The following are my views towards God.

At the very tender age of 2 or 3 years when the child begins to utter some sounds, the elders teach him/her how to pray. They make them repeat what they say. Oh God!! Please take care of us; Please GIVE US happiness, health, wealth and what not. Please give me the ability to judge what is good and what is bad. Make the world a better place to live. Spread peace.. Every child would grow in such an environment where the so called "God" is framed in a shelf in a corner of the house, or these days in a separate 20X20X20 cft room in a house where we see all the idols of Gods with many other items used in performing rituals.
What are the elders trying to do? Why are we taught Who, How, What God is? Are they trying to make us realise the truth? People say that God exists in every human, in every living being and in children. Then why teach them how to salute, how to chant, etc. From the stage of being featus inside the womb of the mother till death, is it not ones own responsibility and ones own instinct to know what God is? The meaning of God or the mysterious truths cannot be taught by long speeches or religious books. It can only be realised by one self. We all know that God is some entity that is independent of any religion. Then why religion? Why various practices are enforced to be followed? Why rituals?

There are so many books written about these things. Various people have tried to express their own feelings, thoughts towards God. Many deliver speeches which we can hear in the popular television channels daily morning. What are all these people trying to do? Are they trying to make people realise something? or teach something? If so, every person who is speaking or who authored a book must have realised something or known something that they are trying to tell the world.

There are many mythologies, histories in every religion in the world which tell something about how to realise God. That means that there are many ways to realise Him. The word 'Him' will imply that God is in a male human form. We could also have used other pronouns like 'It', but since people saw Him in human form, we are continuing this. My basic question is why are we following/practising the rituals or practices that have been followed for ages together? We also know that many are being customised. So if these things can be customised, then what is that we are supposed to do? Why are there customs when the concept of God is independent of cusotms and practices? Or rather why should we follow them?

Who/What/where/Why/How is God?

I shall use the word 'It' rather than 'Him' only to express my thought that God is formless, hence no nouns or pronouns. What we know is that many years before, people realised God in many forms. Those who have personified God must have seen It in the dreams or through naked eyes and hence we have the anthropomorphic forms of It. Lot of people are making their lives by selling those photos/frames/idols, etc. Added to this, we have the famous painters like Raja Ravi Varma and many other who in the courts of great kings have painted the human forms of God both in masculine(God) and feminine (Goddess) forms. Has God something to do with gender? Anyways, we also believe that many epics like Mahabharatha, Ramayan, The Crusade, have really happened since we have historic dates for the events. Our ancestors have successfully described the heroes of the epics in many books and stories and have realised that those heroes were God's. When asked whether there are multiple Gods, the answer we receive is God in many forms.

All this might look wierd, but I wanted to express my thoughts and feelings about God.

God according to me, in one word is energy.

Sun - undoubtedly is the source of energy for all life in the solar system. Plants, animals (human beings), and various other forms of life (Biology categorizes into Protozoa, Polifera, homosapiens, chordata, etc. I am not good at biology though) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_classification

Air, Water, Earth, Fire and the Sky are the five elements of the universe. There is no denial of this fact. They also take energy from the Sun. Solar energy is the one single source of energy that we have in our solar systems. Does any body know that there exist many other solar systems?

So The Sun is the supremo. All the planets orbit around the Sun, since 'It' has its own gravity and energy. According to the law of conservation of energy, energy can not be created or destroyed—it can only be changed from one form to another.Every single unit of living creature on this planet Earth has some energy with which it grows. But the energy levels vary. Right from the time of conception till death, every creature has some amount of energy associated with it. While growing, the energy levels increase/decrease according to the electromagnetic spectrum. If our energy is in the visible spectrum range, then it would appear as a visible color. Almost all the living beings are far below the visible spectrum, hence we dont see the halo around us.
When we die, the energy in us is converted into some other form, not necessarily a human form again. It could be a non-living creature also. Yes, they do have certain energy levels in them. Right from the Atomic theory of Dalton till the Bohr's model, energy is associated with every atom. Some people, popularly called the insinful, reach a moksha stage. An electron which has the highest energy level will be just near the nucleus and the one with the least is the farthest. Similarly, if a creature or a human being has high energy at the time of death, that energy would search for its conversion at higher enery levels in the atmosphere. The more the energy, the closer to the Sun. Our energy levels right now are very less compared to the Sun. Until an electron has a minimum threshold energy, it cannot reach a higher energy state.

Since God is energy, the more energy one has, the more God he is. In other words, one can realise God at higher energy levels.The Gods we see in the photos have a halo around them. That indicates that they are at higher energy states. Realisation of God means to feel the higher energy flowing in and out of one self. How much is that energy? Do we have that in us?At what state are we currently?

Wierd thoughts, rite!! Want to have more stupidity?? Go ahead!!